Told myself to finish this post over the long Chinese New Year weekend while it’s still January. You know, achieve something little each month aka monthly resolution. But, obviously, I failed. Sokkay though, I’ll take it that January is just a free 30 day trial before the real 2017 kicks in. *in denial* teehee.
This post, particularly, took a little bit more time than others. It’s just one of thooose post that makes you go to the thinking room that you’ve been avoiding. Ya feel me? Also, I feel that for the sake of my personal growth, I need to be out of my comfort zone, be brave about my thoughts and from there, slowly, be comfortable with myself and 2017 looks good to be brave.
Last few days of 2016, there were just one too many tweets saying that their 2016 suck. There. Was. Just. So. Many. Negativity.
Well, I can’t deny that there’s so much instability going around the world right now. But under any circumstances, I choose to believe that there are still good people. There is still goodness to look forward to and if you don’t or can’t see any, make your own happiness. Which is why I prefer to blog about happier days. To remind everyone that there is, a better day.
I’m not too sure how I perceive to others but a question that’s asked of me frequently is, “don’t you have anything wrong with your life? Is it really that peaceful?” “How do you get over crappy days/situation?” “Are you not broken?”
Well dear friends, I’m just like any other human being. I’ve pushed other’s buttons, other’s have pushed my buttons. I’ve also gone through what others have.
Like other’s, I’ve had to dust myself of the ground and pick myself up dozens of time, all alone and this is okay. We learn as we move it move it.~
It sure hurt. Every. Time. But one thing I’ve learned this past few years is everything is up to you.
How you view, analyse and choose to react to the situation really makes a difference. (Keyword here: choose to react.)
This post is first and foremost-ly for me to remind myself a) for times when I need to pick myself again. 2) when anger/negativity gets the best of me and forget that I have better things to focus on. Because as we all know 3) decisions made when we’re angry or cuckoo is really not the best decision.
This might bite me back but sometimes we just gotta eat our own medicine.
Note: This is not everything. I’m not an expert with words, especially. I might just bore you if I were to pen everything down. For more life insight article, I recommend thoughtcatalog.
New things or situation will happen one day. Don’t get flustered. Don’t be angry. Ride with it.
Remember what NOT to do when same Ol’ sticky situation comes for a visit, yet again. Life ain’t no bed of roses, rough days are part of life. Don’t hold back. Ride with it.
You really have the choice to be happy. You don’t have to stay in an unhealthy relationship. You can walk away. Whoever they are.
Self-respect. Walk away when someone no longer needs you but doesn’t have enough strength to tell you they don’t need you any more.
Walk away from people who’ve hurt you but have no balls pride to apologise.
You don’t have to stay. You’re better than that. It’s called self-respect. You gotta love yourself first. If you can’t even love yourself, how can you even protect your loved ones.
See things in a positive light. Apologise when wrong. Admitting and learning from mistakes is so much cooler than being right all the time. [WHATEVER YOUR AGE IS. NOTE: YOUNGER PEOPLE HAVE LESSONS TO REMIND YOUNG PEOPLE.]
Also, this is pretty much applicable to those juuust starting on their own. Finished studying and just joined the workforce… It’s okay to not succeed at one go. If you rise up fast, you’ll fall off fast.
Always believe that everything happens for a reason. Ground yourself to the One. Believe that you are exactly where God wants you to be. (Can’t help with atheist here). Which brings me to: Any painful passes or experience is a test to see who you turn to first.
There are others out there going through much worst situation than you yet their heart is at ease. Why? Him.
Ground yourself to the One that never turns His back on you.”
I remembered a day, few months back when something I didn’t like, got thrown to me. Then, as I was out and about, strangers just kept getting on my nerves (we all have thaat kinda day don’t we) and for some reason, I just wanted to see, if I were to let it go, genuinely, not the ‘be cool on the outside and smack that person on the inside (virtually)’, how would my day be.
Before I could even remember that I was having a bad day, something good popped out in front of me. To me, that incident was literally a ‘CONGRATS BABYGAL, YOU DID WELL, HERE’S HAPPINESS FOR YOU,’ handed to me on a diamond plate.
That amazeball rewarding feeling just makes me realise that letting go, can really be rewarding.
I’d like to congratulate myself for finally finishing this post. (This post took a lot of courage for me, you see.) Now, other back logged post can be easily drafted. 🙈🙉🙊
One hurdle down, many more to go, I can do this! 💪💪💪💪💪
With this, I’d like to end this post with a quote, from Oprah. This is something I strongly believe in but didn’t have the right words to put together for a proper sentence but she did it so effortlessly. Gotta love that woman!
Till next post, remember, YOU’RE AWESOME AND YOU GOT THIS! 2017 or not! Whether some kid is butting in your frame, or not!💪
“The sooner you realise the key to your own happiness is you, the easier it’ll be to depend on others less and ergo, you won’t set yourself to disappoint yourself.” – Oprah.